Naijainlove.com provides the opportunity for genuine single adults to anonymously contact and chat with other members in a safe and secure environment.
We personally approve every member’s profile to ensure you are offered the type of service you would expect from us. However, we do not have any control over member- to-member contact, as we consider this a private matter between two consenting adults.
Whilst we offer you an anonymous platform to communicate with other members we ask that you use your common sense and act responsibly at all times.
With your safety in mind, we have compiled basic dating guidelines, which we ask you to consider. Though these guidelines may seem really obvious we still request that you give them your full attention.
Use your Instinct
You will meet some wonderful people on Naijainlove.com – perhaps the one you have been seeking, as well as long term friends. However, until you get to know someone well online, be careful about meeting him/her offline. Use your instinct regarding how much personal information (e.g. telephone number, address or surname) you feel it is appropriate to share, and only agree to meet someone when you feel comfortable and safe doing so. At Naijainlove.com your personal information will always remain confidential.
You are in Control
You are in control of how your online relationships develop. At Naijainlove.com we do all we can to make your experience with us an enjoyable one. Never feel pressured to meet someone face-to-face. We suggest that you apply one simple ground rule in every situation: If you are not ready, don’t do it.
Starting a Relationship
At the beginning of a relationship we might be tempted to throw caution to the wind and rush in. As with any relationship, it is best to gradually build up trust and take as much time as you need. Trust is earned through honourable behaviour, so if you think that someone is not being honest with you, proceed with caution or stop communication altogether. If you don’t wish to be contacted by someone again, the site enables you to block that member from contacting you further.
Ask for a Photo
When you have decided you wish to meet someone face-to-face, always ask for a photo if there isn’t one on his/her profile. Consider leaving this photo with a friend, so that there is at least one other person who knows who you are meeting. Of course, knowing what your date looks like also means that you can dispense with the traditional red carnation!
Forms of Communication
You’ve probably communicated via email, and maybe moved to instant messenger, but have you spoken on the phone yet? It may sound silly, but the sound of someone’s voice could be a crucial deciding factor in relation to whether you wish to proceed any further or not. You don’t need to share your personal phone number in order to converse; you can use the Naijainlove.com instant messenger facility. Remember; only give out your personal number when you are ready.
Meeting Up
At a certain point in some of your online relationships you may decide to meet another member face-to-face. Always meet in a public place, like a pub or restaurant. It is also wise to tell a friend where you are going and how long you expect to be. Always make your own way to the date and leave alone. Try not to drink too much as doing so will impair your judgment.
Be Pro-active
When meeting someone new, you don’t know his/her background or true personality.
Never put yourself in a vulnerable position. Always carry your mobile phone and if you change venues let a friend know. Don’t ignore behaviour that causes you to feel uncomfortable. You are in control, so if you are not happy make the necessary arrangements and leave.
Personal Power
As individuals we differ regarding how reserved or open we are with others. At times you may come in contact with people who are a great deal more open about the information they are willing to share. Remember that your primary responsibility is towards yourself, so don’t ever do or say anything that causes you to feel vulnerable or powerless.
Be Aware
There is a tiny minority of people who use the internet to con others into giving them money. These scams are rare, and the vast majority of individuals you will meet on Naijainlove.com are genuine people. Never pass on your credit card details to another member and never respond to requests for money, no matter how convincing the story you are being told.